The Queen of distraction by Terry Matlen, MSW

It’s subtitled How Women with ADHD can conquer Chaos, Find Focus, and Get More Done.

She’s got a Masters in Social work and is a psychologist as well. Her book is written in a tone of self-help and suggestions of actions that people who are chronically late for appointments and have poor executive skills can help manage their life better.

Some of the suggestions are too far gone for me to believe that ANYONE with ADHD would follow. Like having 3 bulletin boards? With color coding? Nope, not from this gal anyhow.

But some of her suggestions are valid, like the watch one, or the clock alarm setting. To remind your brain that you have an appointment in a half-hour. To jog your memory and help you stay on track. Her other ideas of just jotting down a log of what you actually do in a day and how much time it takes can be very helpful I can see. See what time you are wasting and what really doesn’t take as long as you think it does.

Executive functioning is key to our survival and thinking. It’s basically the control panel of your brain. It involves figuring out how to get from Step A to B to C to D. It’s the train that stays on the rails getting us to our final destination.

It involves

  • planning
  • strategizing
  • organizing
  • goal setting
  • paying attention to important details.

According to Dr. Russell Barkley adults with ADHD typically

  • become easily distracted by stimuli
  • find it hard to stop behaviors and activities that are engaging and of interest to them
  • impulsively make decisions
  • don’t follow directions carefully when starting a project
  • often don’t follow through on promises or commitments
  • have trouble doing things in proper sequence
  • speed while driving
  • find it hard to enjoy quiet leisure activities

All of which I’ve exhibited examples of in my life up to this point.

Anyhow, worth checking out this book indeed, if you suspect you have ADHD or know you do.

I wonder how many women out there?

I wonder how many women out there have undiagnosed ADHD. Or Bipolar? Or Autism? If only they could find the key to unlocking why they are the way they are. It fills in so many gaps in your life when you discover the key to your personality … your being …. your self. It satisfies that need, that want in yourself to understand yourself. It’s a very powerful feeling indeed to understand yourself fully and completely or even just a lot more than you did before the diagnosis or discovery. I fully believe that self-diagnosis is quite valid. It’s necessary, in fact, I believe for you to believe in yourself and to take a formal diagnosis to that next level of comprehension and feeling.

It’s only when we know ourselves that we become comfortable with who we are in our skins. Only then can you love yourself fully and completely.